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Timing For Separating the Twins

Having twins is a unique experience. You now have two bundles of joy …. along with two of everything else! Additionally, they have a unique bond. Parents often wonder when is the right time to separate your twins at home and in school. There’s no right or wrong answer. Circumstances will depend if they are boy-girl twins or of the same gender. Also, whether space permits in your home, the number of other children you have, etc. You may think it best to begin as early as possible so they aren’t dependent on each other in the long run, or you may feel they would be happier together as long as possible. Typically, couples start twins together in the crib and slowly move the babies to their own beds and eventually rooms.

Cribs

When twins are born, the nurses typically put them in the same bassinet. They have been sleeping in utero for so long together, immediate separation is not the best decision. As newborns, they won’t move around too much in the crib. First, swaddle them separately. Then with a larger blanket, swaddle them together. Make sure, though, they don’t get too hot. Once they become wiggly and start hitting each other in the face (accidentally, of course), it’s time to separate them into different cribs.

Initially, you’ll hears some coos and gurgles as the twins call out to each other, making sure their sibling is near.

Beds

Once the babies are old enough to move out of the crib, two beds are in order. Bunk beds are always fun for siblings. After a little while though, there comes a time when you must decide if they are ready for their own room. This will depend on some factors of course, such as the size of your house or apartment. Discuss this decision openly with your twins so they understand and can help make the decision to separate.

Boy Girl Twins

If they are boy-girl twins, at some point they will need to have their own room or share with a same gender sibling. It will be awkward for them as they grow up if they continue to have to share their space. Keep that in mind from the beginning because you may have to move to a larger space. If renting an apartment, discuss with your spouse the options of moving to a larger place with more bedrooms when the twins are born so you’re ready when the times comes.

Signs They’re Ready

When sharing a crib/room, look for signs signaling a separation may be necessary.

  • Keep each other awake/distracted.
  • Different levels of cleanliness.
  • Develop different sleeping habits.
  • You move to a larger place.

If you just aren’t ready, start slow by separating them during naps. This will get them used to sleeping on their own and developing their own sleep habits. They aren’t going to sleep together forever, so it is really important to allow them their own time.